The Guide to Being a DarkPoetry Member [pt 1]
By Six-Out
Well well folks, it's time for another Six-rant.
I've noticed recently (and well, not so recently also) that there seems
to be a large group of people that say they are "unpopular" and feel neglected
by the "cliques" or "possies" of the wonderful DP. Why is it that if you're
not liked, everyone automatically turns into a 'prep' or the site turns
into a popularity contest, or my favorite way of putting it "high school".
In this rant type thing, I'm going to discuss these issues, and maybe more,
if I feel like it.
Section 1: Unpopularity, and how to deal with it.
So, you've been set apart from the group as an outsider, or consider yourself
too mature for the majority of DP? Well guess what?!?! You're not alone!
Fact is, this seems to be something that most 'newbies', as us old-folk
call them, and a few old times (who are reluctant to change) slip into
this mindset. There's an ongoing study as to why, but as of now, there
is no way of knowing exactly. But, nonetheless, a large percintage of darkpoetry
considers themselves outcasts. Keywords in that sentance are : considers
themselves.
Truth be told, no one is really an outcast on this site, seeing as there's
a rather large variety of people that frequent. While you may consider
yourself alone in this trivial world of text and metatags, you're not.
Those people that you consider closeminded, are probably considering you
closeminded as well. How do we solve this problem? you may ask. Why the
answer is simple. Stop being so ignorant.
That's right, I said it. You're being ignorant. Open your eyes and stop
moving your fingers for a second to realize that your own 'nonconformist'
mindset is alienating you from the rest of our black/red/and white world.
It's all fun and good to be your own person, but don't hate the rest of
our e-world because a few don't like the person that you are. Just ignore
and move on. There are comment delete buttons.
Section 2: Popularity and Comments
This is a roundabout topic that never seems to die. It should be renamed
"The Cockroach Theory". People love to find any excuse as to why they aren't
getting the comments that the other, and in their eyes more popular, members
are getting. Here's a concept for you: Respect. It's a thing you earn after
being a member for a good deal of time (which can sometimes be weeks, depending
on talent) and consistantly posting something that makes the reader 'wow'.
"Now", you may say, "of course you think that way, you are one of the popular
ones". Well, I may be, big deal. That doesn't mean I dont' know what it's
like to not be known. I remember thinking back a few years, that I was
a nobody with a generic name that was rarely read. No one is instantly
respected. Next time you get pissy and say that you have to kiss ass and
suck up to get comments, think about what you just said. Then think about
the members that do get comments a lot. How often do they suck up? How
often do they rant and rave and beg people to read their work? Hardly ever
right?
A good tip is to comment on people, to get comments. Although some are
not responsive to this (like me) it's a good start. And a start is always
better than sitting there crying and alone.
Section 3: Opinions, and dealing with them
It's obvious that on a site meant to be a sanctuary from the so-called
normal world, that everyone would have more than their share of opinions.
What most don't understand is that along with these opinions come counteropinions.
That's right, there's a slight chance that everyone in the world might
not agree with your point of view. What should you do if this situation
arises? Should you rant, and scream, and call everyone immature until they
ignore you? No, you move along, and continue thinking what you will.
The entire point of an opinion is to voice what you think on a topic, and
have the world judge your views. This means that you should not
get offended when someone makes an opinionated statement, nor should you
be offended when someone makes a negative reply to your opinion. That's
what they are there for. There are a few simple steps to take if you either
don't like someone's opinion, or can't deal with anyone else having a thought
process. They are as follows:
1. Delete the work that causes the uproar.
2. Delete the comments
3. Don't allow comments
4. Don't post.
The last one is particularly special, because it is the one that most people
should pay the most attention to. DarkPoetry is a public forum, and everyone
should be entitled to think as they feel. As an opposite, everyone should
be entitled to display how they feel about the opinions of another. If
you can't deal with someone not agreeing, or replying harshly, you should
seriously reconsider posting your views here.
Follow these steps, and you should be fine.
THE END
Awards
Comments on "The Guide to Being a DarkPoetry Member [pt 1]"
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On Sunday, January 27, 2019, Drea
(1388) wrote:
This still holds true today haha.
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On Sunday, January 27, 2019, redfurrydragon
(50) wrote:
No nonsense here. Being written in 2005 (13+ years ago), why did it just show up in my email today?
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A former member wrote:
LMAO!! I love the fourth one on the list. ][ ][
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A former member wrote:
So says the Justin Timberlake of Dark Poetry. I always thought success here had something to do with booty shots and webcams, like the rest of the internet. You just wanted to take this opportunity to affirm your own popularity, didn't you? Admit it. =) I'm just messing with you. Nice post. I enjoy your writes (and I won't expect any comments).
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A former member wrote:
I'm looking forward to the sequel, though. =P
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On Monday, November 9, 2009, DarkPoet
(229) wrote:
U no spel chk!
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On Thursday, November 12, 2009, Six-Out
(1423) wrote:
Spell check is for commies!
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A former member wrote:
HAHAHA.... wow, .. and ummm why did I never recieve my policy panphlet on this when I joined??? *hmmm pouts*.. always the to find these things out.. HAHA this was great tho Six*winks*~Rain
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On Wednesday, November 7, 2007, Circe Avalon
(115) wrote:
If a member has a problem, they have to suck it up. Welcome to the real world. Great rant
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On Sunday, October 7, 2007, Narcissa
(391) wrote:
The comments on this is quite amusing:) I don't feel like this is a popularity contest - u like it or u don't!
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On Sunday, May 20, 2007, carlosjackal
(2787) wrote:
I fucking love you, Jon. *faves*
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On Friday, May 19, 2006, PoeticHellion
(191) wrote:
AMEN
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On Saturday, August 6, 2005, TheBardOfBlasphemy
(357) wrote:
this is funny. and it also makes a lot of sense.
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On Monday, July 18, 2005, Dei
(663) wrote:
amusing. Nice comment on your page by the way. You and your texan ego!
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On Sunday, July 17, 2005, Butterfly
(99) wrote:
Beautifully put
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On Friday, June 10, 2005, Amanda Parnell
(57) wrote:
Yous gots a point! For some odd reason I am considered a "newb" but hey, whatever floats to keep me from sinking. ♥
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A former member wrote:
When joining DP, I said to myself, "Even if only two people read my stuff, I'll be happy." We'll after all these months, I'm glad to say that I'm halfway to my goal. Now, if I could only find a reader besides my mom...
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On Tuesday, May 24, 2005, BoldSolitude
(214) wrote:
Hmm, I was taking a break from the site when you posted this but I saw it in someones favorites and it peeked my interest. I seldom agree with your opinions on things but I do respect anyone's opinion and this (rant)? says it perfectly.
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On Tuesday, May 24, 2005, BoldSolitude
(214) wrote:
Agree to disagree. Popularity is a self induced disorder in my opinion. If you write you should be writing for your own sake, not to impress or win over people (fans)(friends)(etc, etc.)
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On Saturday, May 14, 2005, Kinkypoptart
(555) wrote:
Great write, Six. Not enough people realize this. ~*~tart~*~
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On Tuesday, May 3, 2005, Ophelia
(221) wrote:
lol, I want to be the loner that no one likes and never get's read, you know the cool one in the back of the class every one wants to be but is afraid to talk to...lol, I miss you so much, O
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A former member wrote:
Six out...need help...
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On Tuesday, May 3, 2005, elisa
(1595) wrote:
don't worry.............he's gettin' it;)
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On Sunday, May 1, 2005, The Crimson Queen
(917) wrote:
this should definately be required reading.
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A former member wrote:
So what your trying to tell me is... ;)
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On Sunday, May 1, 2005, Six-Out
(1423) wrote:
You've been naughty, let me spank you?
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A former member wrote:
*falls over laughing* oh you ahve no idea how funny this is to me
good write Jon you brought up some good points here and there ;)
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On Thursday, April 28, 2005, KittyStryker
(710) wrote:
actually, for my popularity i just slept with everyone on darkpoetry that has me on their faves list. except for you, six. ;)
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On Thursday, April 28, 2005, Dei
(663) wrote:
finally! someone says what we have all been guilty of.. i mean thinking... *cough* lol well done sxy! ~Natelle~
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On Thursday, April 28, 2005, hate_doll
(263) wrote:
hit bitches! and by bitches I mean whiney newbs.
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On Thursday, April 28, 2005, elisa
(1595) wrote:
if i REALLY wanted to get 'read' more i would write poetry down my naked body, take a picture and post it..........huh...*thinks that's a good idea*.......i'll even run a spell check first;)elisa
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On Thursday, April 28, 2005, SilentStalker
(1047) wrote:
...I'll do the spell check...what do I get to use as an eraser...?
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On Thursday, April 28, 2005, elisa
(1595) wrote:
you'll have to lick r e a l firm, i tend to write kinda hard;)
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On Wednesday, June 8, 2005, SilentStalker
(1047) wrote:
...damn, I was gonna use the 'white out'...
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On Wednesday, June 8, 2005, elisa
(1595) wrote:
'white out'.....*rolls eyess*.......now that's just messy and tacky........any other suggestions?
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On Wednesday, April 27, 2005, SilentStalker
(1047) wrote:
...here's an idea for people trying to get read: instead of whoring (can someone read *insert title here*, please!!!), advertise yourself...that's right, make someone interested in checking out what you write...
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On Wednesday, April 27, 2005, SilentStalker
(1047) wrote:
...what does this require...? well, for starters, some confidence that your writing kicks ass won't hurt...and tact is probably more important than that...unless you're a sadistic asshole like me...
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On Wednesday, April 27, 2005, SilentStalker
(1047) wrote:
...in which case a warning about your work will be enough to spark interest...So how do you do it...? Chatting, and not starting off by saying "dude, I just finished this awesome..." shut it, and try again...
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On Wednesday, April 27, 2005, SilentStalker
(1047) wrote:
...maybe actually chatting about something and saying, "hey, I wrote something just like this", or, "If you think that's messed up, I'lll show you something"...I do that a lot, and I don't trigger the "Whore-O-Meter(tm)" much at all...
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On Wednesday, April 27, 2005, SilentStalker
(1047) wrote:
...of course, some amount of talent to back your statement up is needed...try that with a crap work, and your future attempts might get ignored, and probably without any explanation why...
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A former member wrote:
Can I still whine? I like whining. It pisses Doug off....
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On Tuesday, April 26, 2005, elisa
(1595) wrote:
you can whine if i can be a colossal bitch....it's one of my strengths;)
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On Tuesday, April 26, 2005, mysticventures
(527) wrote:
besides - I already know i am brilliant - and no amount of comments can change that :)
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On Tuesday, April 26, 2005, SilentStalker
(1047) wrote:
...yeah; I don't have to whore either; I already know I'm good... ;)
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On Tuesday, April 26, 2005, elisa
(1595) wrote:
i concur mystic:*)....you are brilliant.....comments pale in comparison...elisa