The Guide to Being a DarkPoetry Member [pt 1]

By Six-Out

Well well folks, it's time for another Six-rant.

I've noticed recently (and well, not so recently also) that there seems to be a large group of people that say they are "unpopular" and feel neglected by the "cliques" or "possies" of the wonderful DP. Why is it that if you're not liked, everyone automatically turns into a 'prep' or the site turns into a popularity contest, or my favorite way of putting it "high school". In this rant type thing, I'm going to discuss these issues, and maybe more, if I feel like it.

Section 1: Unpopularity, and how to deal with it.
So, you've been set apart from the group as an outsider, or consider yourself too mature for the majority of DP? Well guess what?!?! You're not alone! Fact is, this seems to be something that most 'newbies', as us old-folk call them, and a few old times (who are reluctant to change) slip into this mindset. There's an ongoing study as to why, but as of now, there is no way of knowing exactly. But, nonetheless, a large percintage of darkpoetry considers themselves outcasts. Keywords in that sentance are : considers themselves.
Truth be told, no one is really an outcast on this site, seeing as there's a rather large variety of people that frequent. While you may consider yourself alone in this trivial world of text and metatags, you're not. Those people that you consider closeminded, are probably considering you closeminded as well. How do we solve this problem? you may ask. Why the answer is simple. Stop being so ignorant.
That's right, I said it. You're being ignorant. Open your eyes and stop moving your fingers for a second to realize that your own 'nonconformist' mindset is alienating you from the rest of our black/red/and white world. It's all fun and good to be your own person, but don't hate the rest of our e-world because a few don't like the person that you are. Just ignore and move on. There are comment delete buttons.

Section 2: Popularity and Comments
This is a roundabout topic that never seems to die. It should be renamed "The Cockroach Theory". People love to find any excuse as to why they aren't getting the comments that the other, and in their eyes more popular, members are getting. Here's a concept for you: Respect. It's a thing you earn after being a member for a good deal of time (which can sometimes be weeks, depending on talent) and consistantly posting something that makes the reader 'wow'.
"Now", you may say, "of course you think that way, you are one of the popular ones". Well, I may be, big deal. That doesn't mean I dont' know what it's like to not be known. I remember thinking back a few years, that I was a nobody with a generic name that was rarely read. No one is instantly respected. Next time you get pissy and say that you have to kiss ass and suck up to get comments, think about what you just said. Then think about the members that do get comments a lot. How often do they suck up? How often do they rant and rave and beg people to read their work? Hardly ever right?
A good tip is to comment on people, to get comments. Although some are not responsive to this (like me) it's a good start. And a start is always better than sitting there crying and alone.

Section 3: Opinions, and dealing with them
It's obvious that on a site meant to be a sanctuary from the so-called normal world, that everyone would have more than their share of opinions. What most don't understand is that along with these opinions come counteropinions. That's right, there's a slight chance that everyone in the world might not agree with your point of view. What should you do if this situation arises? Should you rant, and scream, and call everyone immature until they ignore you? No, you move along, and continue thinking what you will.
The entire point of an opinion is to voice what you think on a topic, and have the world judge your views. This means that you should not get offended when someone makes an opinionated statement, nor should you be offended when someone makes a negative reply to your opinion. That's what they are there for. There are a few simple steps to take if you either don't like someone's opinion, or can't deal with anyone else having a thought process. They are as follows:

1. Delete the work that causes the uproar.
2. Delete the comments
3. Don't allow comments
4. Don't post.

The last one is particularly special, because it is the one that most people should pay the most attention to. DarkPoetry is a public forum, and everyone should be entitled to think as they feel. As an opposite, everyone should be entitled to display how they feel about the opinions of another. If you can't deal with someone not agreeing, or replying harshly, you should seriously reconsider posting your views here.



Follow these steps, and you should be fine.

THE END

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Copyright 2005 Six-Out
Published on Monday, April 25, 2005.     Filed under: "Comedy" and "Rant"
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  • Drea On Sunday, January 27, 2019, Drea (1529)By person wrote:

    This still holds true today haha.

  • redfurrydragon On Sunday, January 27, 2019, redfurrydragon (50)By person wrote:

    No nonsense here. Being written in 2005 (13+ years ago), why did it just show up in my email today?

  • A former member wrote: LMAO!! I love the fourth one on the list. ][ ][

  • A former member wrote: So says the Justin Timberlake of Dark Poetry. I always thought success here had something to do with booty shots and webcams, like the rest of the internet. You just wanted to take this opportunity to affirm your own popularity, didn't you? Admit it. =) I'm just messing with you. Nice post. I enjoy your writes (and I won't expect any comments).

  • A former member wrote: I'm looking forward to the sequel, though. =P

  • DarkPoet On Monday, November 9, 2009, DarkPoet (244)By person wrote:

    U no spel chk! Scholar

  • Six-Out On Thursday, November 12, 2009, Six-Out (1483)By person wrote:

    Spell check is for commies!

  • A former member wrote: HAHAHA.... wow, .. and ummm why did I never recieve my policy panphlet on this when I joined??? *hmmm pouts*.. always the to find these things out.. HAHA this was great tho Six*winks*~Rain

  • Circe Avalon On Wednesday, November 7, 2007, Circe Avalon (117)By person wrote:

    If a member has a problem, they have to suck it up. Welcome to the real world. Great rant

  • Narcissa On Sunday, October 7, 2007, Narcissa (404)By person wrote:

    The comments on this is quite amusing:) I don't feel like this is a popularity contest - u like it or u don't!

  • carlosjackal On Sunday, May 20, 2007, carlosjackal (2477)By person wrote:

    I fucking love you, Jon. *faves*

  • PoeticHellion On Friday, May 19, 2006, PoeticHellion (192)By person wrote:

    AMEN

  • TheBardOfBlasphemy On Saturday, August 6, 2005, TheBardOfBlasphemy (365)By person wrote:

    this is funny. and it also makes a lot of sense.

  • Dei On Monday, July 18, 2005, Dei (706)By person wrote:

    amusing. Nice comment on your page by the way. You and your texan ego!

  • Butterfly On Sunday, July 17, 2005, Butterfly (102)By person wrote:

    Beautifully put

  • Amanda Parnell On Friday, June 10, 2005, Amanda Parnell (59)By person wrote:

    Yous gots a point! For some odd reason I am considered a "newb" but hey, whatever floats to keep me from sinking. ♥

  • A former member wrote: When joining DP, I said to myself, "Even if only two people read my stuff, I'll be happy." We'll after all these months, I'm glad to say that I'm halfway to my goal. Now, if I could only find a reader besides my mom...

  • BoldSolitude On Tuesday, May 24, 2005, BoldSolitude (214)By person wrote:

    Hmm, I was taking a break from the site when you posted this but I saw it in someones favorites and it peeked my interest. I seldom agree with your opinions on things but I do respect anyone's opinion and this (rant)? says it perfectly.

  • BoldSolitude On Tuesday, May 24, 2005, BoldSolitude (214)By person wrote:

    Agree to disagree. Popularity is a self induced disorder in my opinion. If you write you should be writing for your own sake, not to impress or win over people (fans)(friends)(etc, etc.)

  • Kinkypoptart On Saturday, May 14, 2005, Kinkypoptart (578)By person wrote:

    Great write, Six. Not enough people realize this. ~*~tart~*~

  • Ophelia On Tuesday, May 3, 2005, Ophelia (228)By person wrote:

    lol, I want to be the loner that no one likes and never get's read, you know the cool one in the back of the class every one wants to be but is afraid to talk to...lol, I miss you so much, O

  • A former member wrote: Six out...need help...

  • elisa On Tuesday, May 3, 2005, elisa (1643)By person wrote:

    don't worry.............he's gettin' it;)

  • The Crimson Queen On Sunday, May 1, 2005, The Crimson Queen (928)By person wrote:

    this should definately be required reading.

  • A former member wrote: So what your trying to tell me is... ;)

  • Six-Out On Sunday, May 1, 2005, Six-Out (1483)By person wrote:

    You've been naughty, let me spank you?

  • A former member wrote: *falls over laughing* oh you ahve no idea how funny this is to me good write Jon you brought up some good points here and there ;)

  • KittyStryker On Thursday, April 28, 2005, KittyStryker (736)By person wrote:

    actually, for my popularity i just slept with everyone on darkpoetry that has me on their faves list. except for you, six. ;)

  • Dei On Thursday, April 28, 2005, Dei (706)By person wrote:

    finally! someone says what we have all been guilty of.. i mean thinking... *cough* lol well done sxy! ~Natelle~

  • hate_doll On Thursday, April 28, 2005, hate_doll (266)By person wrote:

    hit bitches! and by bitches I mean whiney newbs.

  • elisa On Thursday, April 28, 2005, elisa (1643)By person wrote:

    if i REALLY wanted to get 'read' more i would write poetry down my naked body, take a picture and post it..........huh...*thinks that's a good idea*.......i'll even run a spell check first;)elisa

  • SilentStalker On Thursday, April 28, 2005, SilentStalker (1092)By person wrote:

    ...I'll do the spell check...what do I get to use as an eraser...? Scholar

  • elisa On Thursday, April 28, 2005, elisa (1643)By person wrote:

    you'll have to lick r e a l firm, i tend to write kinda hard;)

  • SilentStalker On Wednesday, June 8, 2005, SilentStalker (1092)By person wrote:

    ...damn, I was gonna use the 'white out'... Scholar

  • elisa On Wednesday, June 8, 2005, elisa (1643)By person wrote:

    'white out'.....*rolls eyess*.......now that's just messy and tacky........any other suggestions?

  • SilentStalker On Wednesday, April 27, 2005, SilentStalker (1092)By person wrote:

    ...here's an idea for people trying to get read: instead of whoring (can someone read *insert title here*, please!!!), advertise yourself...that's right, make someone interested in checking out what you write... Scholar

  • SilentStalker On Wednesday, April 27, 2005, SilentStalker (1092)By person wrote:

    ...what does this require...? well, for starters, some confidence that your writing kicks ass won't hurt...and tact is probably more important than that...unless you're a sadistic asshole like me... Scholar

  • SilentStalker On Wednesday, April 27, 2005, SilentStalker (1092)By person wrote:

    ...in which case a warning about your work will be enough to spark interest...So how do you do it...? Chatting, and not starting off by saying "dude, I just finished this awesome..." shut it, and try again... Scholar

  • SilentStalker On Wednesday, April 27, 2005, SilentStalker (1092)By person wrote:

    ...maybe actually chatting about something and saying, "hey, I wrote something just like this", or, "If you think that's messed up, I'lll show you something"...I do that a lot, and I don't trigger the "Whore-O-Meter(tm)" much at all... Scholar

  • SilentStalker On Wednesday, April 27, 2005, SilentStalker (1092)By person wrote:

    ...of course, some amount of talent to back your statement up is needed...try that with a crap work, and your future attempts might get ignored, and probably without any explanation why... Scholar

  • A former member wrote: Can I still whine? I like whining. It pisses Doug off.... Scholar

  • elisa On Tuesday, April 26, 2005, elisa (1643)By person wrote:

    you can whine if i can be a colossal bitch....it's one of my strengths;)

  • mysticventures On Tuesday, April 26, 2005, mysticventures (484)By person wrote:

    besides - I already know i am brilliant - and no amount of comments can change that :)

  • SilentStalker On Tuesday, April 26, 2005, SilentStalker (1092)By person wrote:

    ...yeah; I don't have to whore either; I already know I'm good... ;) Scholar

  • elisa On Tuesday, April 26, 2005, elisa (1643)By person wrote:

    i concur mystic:*)....you are brilliant.....comments pale in comparison...elisa


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