the unequal equation of sex vs love

By KittyStryker

i read all the time

about

sex = love

love = sex

and the inequality
of that sentence

how people
fuck without love
or love
without sex

what is more pure
what is downright sinful

but
people forget
there is one more
element
to the equation

intimacy

you could have
love
without intimacy, without
feeling like you know
the person
inside and out

you can have
sex
with intimacy
but without love
it still means something
it's still
worth memories

intimacy
is the balancing factor
between sex
and love

you don't need love
to be intimate
you don't need sex
to be intimate

all three
create explosions
but any one
singularly
or combined
can create
their own fires
their own joys

and truly

who are you
to judge
what combination
is acceptable
for anyone
except
you?

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Published on Tuesday, June 1, 2004. Filed under: "Poetry"

Comments on "the unequal equation of sex vs love"

On Thursday, March 25, 2010, Miztaken4beauty (176) wrote:

agreed. ^_^
On Saturday, June 4, 2005, Black_Cherry_Doll_ (69) wrote:

wow. Read this a few times and my head is still spinning!!
On Thursday, June 3, 2004, Mademoiselle_Minx (108) wrote:

*But very well done kitty and I do understand what you mean :)
On Friday, June 4, 2004, KittyStryker (710) wrote:

i don't mind someone i love loving multiple people. i just need reassurance. Isaac has multiple partners and yet i feel totally pampered by him. i honestly wouldn't know if he didn't tell me. it's lovely. :) when it works... it really works!
On Thursday, June 3, 2004, Mademoiselle_Minx (108) wrote:

sex did mean something,I still felt insecure because I knew he wasnt mine, which I guess if your in love,yes you still might feel insecure from time to time, but you know they love you+hopefully only you.I dont know if what I just said makes any sense...B
On Thursday, June 3, 2004, Mademoiselle_Minx (108) wrote:

but then that comes back to how much I liked him.I guess I was insecure+jealous,because I wanted him to be mine, like I was his.As you say, I too just loved bein with him, cuddling or just watching a friends video heh.But even though we were intimate,and
On Thursday, June 3, 2004, Mademoiselle_Minx (108) wrote:

Hmmm this made me think.I know what you mean...sex with a connection but not love...however I had that kinda relationship recently only I felt more for him then he did for me.So I ended it.I didnt like how he could be the same with other people (sex wise)
On Wednesday, June 2, 2004, Delphoid-Q (213) wrote:

I know it's already been said, but, 'Damn right'.
On Tuesday, June 1, 2004, flying_fox (571) wrote:

eloquent and thought-provoking. great write Kitty.
On Tuesday, June 1, 2004, murder_in_clubland (384) wrote:

WOW this is amazing. . . ~ss
On Tuesday, June 1, 2004, worm (1149) wrote:

ahh... the age old question! let me say this about that... you can have one without the other...
On Tuesday, June 1, 2004, worm (1149) wrote:

but the older you get, at least in my case, the physical act seems less if there is not love involved... almost like an afterthought... a piece to make you think... nice!
On Tuesday, June 1, 2004, KittyStryker (710) wrote:

a huge part of this is that my sex with my Dom is intimate... we aren't in love... it's also not "just sex"... there's a connection. it's powerful... but it's not love, by any means. i wanted to give that a name.
On Tuesday, June 1, 2004, aXe FactoR (333) wrote:

i just posted a new piece that's ranting abt sex,do hope that if others have read it they won't feel pissed.cos im refering according to my personal experience.i do very much agree with u that a person has no right to judge.the last stanza was powerful,mi
On Tuesday, June 1, 2004, aXe FactoR (333) wrote:

mind-blowing & rad. the feelings this poem conjured provokes a lot of thought in me. nice. :)
On Tuesday, June 1, 2004, KittyStryker (710) wrote:

::grins:: that's what inspired me, actually. this isn't directed at you at all- i just feel, strongly, that people forget part of the equation when they think of such things... and that they might want to consider intimacy in their negotiations. :D
On Tuesday, June 1, 2004, Exodus (172) wrote:

wow...very well said indeed....i enjoyed this very much...great work!
A former member wrote: Very insightful.
A former member wrote: Have Reading this, All I could do was nod my head yes, You really thaught this up, I like that
On Tuesday, June 1, 2004, BleedSilver (298) wrote:

Very well said. We all choose our own paths, but fuck anyone who judges us different for our choices.Intimacy is the balance...never really thought of it that way, but it is true now that I think of it.~Mikey
On Tuesday, June 1, 2004, urbanhumility (1158) wrote:

tru-dat, well said my friend.............urban
On Tuesday, June 1, 2004, KittyStryker (710) wrote:

^_^ thankee! it's something i've been thinking about a lot... i might want to formulate an essay on it. it frustrates me how people forget about intimacy.
On Tuesday, June 1, 2004, Jonas (715) wrote:

damn right
On Tuesday, June 1, 2004, KittyStryker (710) wrote:

::beams::