Comments by BetaWolfinVA
- "she is already used to spending most of her free time with others... she drives two men back and forth to work, and they talk a lot... i am not much of a talker.
were i a jealous man, this would be unacceptable...
as it is it feels rather unfair to me, she is out until midnight or three am talking, and she gets jealous when i simply text raven...
she really got pissed when i tried to go to ravens mothers memorial service, even though i asked her to come with me...
a few more steps, and she lets me have friends or "friends" as well...
but it is unlikely"
Posted by BetaWolfinVA on "Life or Honor (Friday,_19_June_2015_09:02)" by BetaWolfinVA
- "why is it that sellers of alcohol and tobacco products card every one they suspect is below the age of 30 despite 18 being the legal age to buy cigarettes, and 21 the age to buy alcohol?
she lied to AOL to get access to the 18+ area where she surfed the profiles, and found mine... she claimed to be 19.
After a month of online and phone dating, i was already in trouble when i found out that she was not 19."
Posted by BetaWolfinVA on "Things i should have said over the past 18 Years (3May15_21:20)" by BetaWolfinVA
- "she chose me in 1996
tried a few times to come back into my life after she left...but i was always trying to make failing relationships work after she breezed through
moved in with my first wife and i in 2003
and was the one that inniated contact in 2012
i was normal, i was free of her... and she triggered my obsession, and i am trying to rebuild my mind again"
Posted by BetaWolfinVA on "Things i should have said over the past 18 Years (3May15_21:20)" by BetaWolfinVA
- "the only reason that i did not go to the memorial is because i put the good of my daughter above what i needed - she may see my sadness, but not know its reason - when she gets older, she will probably find my life a cautionary tale about knowing what is important to you, and knowing what you are willing to give up to get it, and the damage that results if you give up something that you cannot live without
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poly didnt work out
that was the 2003-2004 time frame, and i have not seen raven in the past ten years.
it was basically my attempt to have raven back in my life while i maintained my duty to my first wife... if i were a better man, i would have followed through with my first attempt to leave my first wife in 2003... i called raven, crying, letting her know that i was leaving my first wife, and raven made me take my first wife back
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but then again, i would not have been able to care for my first cousin, once removed ... i did not know until recently that raven never wants children
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poly is not legal in virginia, that only means that there was no legal recognition of the marriage, and that there was no paperwork needed when raven left to marry the man that she met while she lived here... i was happy she was happy... until the day she left
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obsessive, definately there is my life before raven, and my life after
stalkerish... not any more, she stopped the mutual stalking cold after i dissapointed her by not going to her mothers memorial... evidently her husband, his parents, and her room mate were not enough... "
Posted by BetaWolfinVA on "Things i should have said over the past 18 Years (3May15_21:20)" by BetaWolfinVA
- "there is nothing here about simple cheating
in three couples, couple A, Man is poly and Woman A is not
Woman A is knows than Man A has been text friends with woman B, but has not gone farther during *current* marriage; //
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Couple B, Woman B is poly and Man B is not Woman B has stopped playing with others, and broken off contact with man A after he was refused permission to attend woman B 's memorial for her mother; //
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Couple C has been sexless for thirteen years, both Man C (assumed by woman C) and Woman C (stated by woman C) cheat, Woman C is moving out of the house to get a love nest for her current lover (not known to Man C), and that would put Man C and D on the street; //
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Man D is the friend of Woman A in question.... Man A does not think that Woman A has exercised her permission.//
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again, this is not a case of simple cheating...
Man A would love it if Couples A & B were at minimum, on friendly terms and spent time together..."
Posted by BetaWolfinVA on "It seems that i am skirting the edge... (Tuesday, 24 Feb 2015)" by BetaWolfinVA
- "Some times simple oversights have life altering consequences.
Some of them involve what you knew at specific times.
And decades later "I didn't know" is indefensible to yourself, even if no one else cares"
Posted by BetaWolfinVA on "One such Moment in time" by BetaWolfinVA
- "She was the first woman to approach me online...
I loved her for it, the telephone bills, the sleepless nights, those were the cost of being loved.... but I was not saguine about each night glued to the phone trying to give her joy possibly being her last"
Posted by BetaWolfinVA on "A Fool Cries" by BetaWolfinVA
- "maybe the one that burns the brightest in your heart will actually choose children
maybe the one that burns the brightest in your heart will actually choose you and give up on the idea of children
maybe you will love the one that is helping you raise your child, and be able to love her with the passion that she deserves
maybe the one you love will finally love you back again and he will stop pinning away over a woman that keeps shoving him out of her life and dragging him back in
maybe mommie and daddy will stop crying when they think no one else can see
"
Posted by BetaWolfinVA on "Unfaithful (Thursday, 11 December 2014)" by BetaWolfinVA
- "interesting...
it's actually been years since i heard that one, but that must have been an extremely powerful lyric to stay in my mind that long...
i'd actually forgotten the song itself"
Posted by BetaWolfinVA on "Falling Through Space" by BetaWolfinVA
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